Aly, Are you Stubborn?

                          I believe you have to set your own boundaries so the wind does not take you away!

I find this topic very interesting because people see the way I handle certain situations and consider me as being “stubborn.”   When someone tells me I’m stubborn and hard-headed I always laugh.  I know this world is not black and white and that’s why I no longer take things to heart.  I always evaluate my options and listen to the viewpoint of others.  My stubbornness kicks in more when I’m making decisions; there’s no room to bend the rules.  I am the “don’t-bend-the-rules” kinda stubborn like a corporation that has restrictions and policies in place.  If you set rules, obey them; no exceptions.  Now, I apply the same rule in a positive way; if I say we are doing this, we are doing it.

My stubbornness comes from wanting to set certain expectations and guidelines.  There are specific rules I have and I consider them as “Things that are acceptable” and “Things I won’t put up with.”  These rules allow me to live a happier life and have very little stress.  I took some time earlier in my life to come up with my own expectations and guidelines.  That’s why I have no problem disconnecting myself from people or situations that don’t meet these expectations.  Some people might refer to them as having values and principles; I call them “My Life Rules.”

There was a point in my life where I was the YO-YO kinda girl.  I just didn’t have any boundaries.  I felt that I was always pleasing people and molding myself to be nice. I wanted people to like me, accept me and give me validation.  I was lacking a sense of confidence and ended up trying to please everyone but myself.   One day I was happy and then the next day I was miserable.  It was an emotional rollercoaster. One day I was up, the next day I was down.  I started discovering what I was willing to accept and deal with in my life.  I learned that I was the one that allowed things to happen to myself.  Nobody has control over my life but me.  That’s when I created my first “Aly’s Rule”….. “I will not allow anyone or anything to take away my joy” and it works like a charm.

Any time someone attempts to mess with me and I start to feel anxious over a situation, I immediately snap out of it and apply the rule. Now, you can refer to me as “stubborn” but, I live my life with principles. I have other life rules that are very strict and some are pretty funny.  I’ll blog about them in the near future.  I encourage you to set your own expectations and guidelines in your own life.  I live by these principles and I truly enjoy it because I get to live an authentic life created by ME.  

This is GOALYGO!

Yanira ALY Nazario :0)~