Our Last days Together....

                               When your only option is to be strong, you are given the strength and wisdom to manage.

In the summer of this year I found myself being pulled in many different directions.  Running three businesses, creating ideas, managing daily operations and coping with severe concerns about Mariely’s health was a lot to deal with. Every day was harder to get through seeing her become less and less active.  

Mariely and I were in constant communication with each other either by text messages or phone calls. She always wanted to know what “Aly was getting herself into.”   She always showed concern and looked out for me that many times I would say “Yes, MOM.”  We spoke every night about our how our day went, different plans, feelings, concerns and just girl stuff.   After each conversation, I could tell my best friend’s health was quickly deteriorating but her positive attitude and determination to fight the cancer was greater than any possible doubt.

Our conversations over the next three weeks became more intimate.   We started sharing more laughs, memories, and talked for hours at a time; sometimes until 4:00am. This one particular night I said to her “How about I become your live performer and sing to you?”  She said “Great idea.”   So I got my iPad, got on YouTube and started searching for her favorite songs.   As soon as I found the perfect song I started singing when suddenly she screams “STOP! You were born to build a business not to sing! Let’s just talk about boys.”   At that moment we both broke out into uncontrollable laughter.  We always had such a great time together.  Our conversations were always full of joy, laughter and just special.

This one particular Sunday, she wanted some “Aly time” so she said “You are always on the GO so don’t make any plans because I’m going to cook for you, come over.”   I said, “Sure, no problem.”   I remember walking into her welcoming home to find her very ill but still in good spirits.  She cooked my favorite meal and surprised me with my favorite dessert, Flan.  She wasn’t able to walk and do much but we still had dinner together.  We ended up having our girl time, played candy crush for hours, watched lifetime movies and laughed like never before with our “boy stories.”

The following Monday I went about my daily routine.  I sent her a few text messages and called her like I usually did.  Come to find out she had been admitted to the hospital.  I immediately made arrangements to go straight to see her.  I cancelled all appointments and I was out of the office until further notice.  My heart sank, my mind was racing and I started to feel weak but I remained hopeful.  As soon as I got to the hospital, I sat by her side and said “I’m not leaving you, I’m here for you.”   She smiled and said “This is gonna be FUN.”  At that moment my business, meetings, emails and phone calls had no power over my life.   My only purpose was to be by her side day and night.

We get so busy in our own individual worlds that we don’t make it a priority to call or just keep in touch with our family and friends.  The next few days were life changing for me but, today I get to share the story with others because there is always a lesson to be learned through our experiences in life.  Communicate more often with those that matter to you.!

 

This is GOALYGO! 

 

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

My Divorce...

 

                                                       There’s nothing pretty about a breakup….

It doesn’t matter how you announce the news, “a breakup sucks.”  There are so many changes with any breakup that you end up hurting each other.  It’s inevitable.  I’ve had a few breakups in my life; from breaking up with boyfriends, ending business relationships, a marriage, friendships etc. They are all hard to do but sometimes necessary.

I found myself having responsibilities early in life; I spent all of my 20s married and ended up with a relationship of 12 long years. There was a lot that was expected of me and I was being pulled in so many different directions.   I found myself with a household, a husband, a corporate job, a business, financial obligations, parent requests, friend’s opinions and it was absolutely overwhelming.  I was becoming an adult the hard way by having to make constant “grownup” decisions. The challenge to keep up with these decisions was more than I could handle and my happiness was at stake.

My husband, at the time, and I talked about how our lives were changing and we discussed what was important to us.  He wanted to have children and start a family but, my desire was to build a business. He wanted me to be a stay-at-home-mom but I wasn’t ready to have children.  I had so much on my plate; there just wasn’t any room left.   We went back and forth with discussions that finally lead us to the courthouse to file for divorce.  One day, I said to him “Why don’t you just cheat to make this process easier?” His response was “I have no reason to cheat, I love you too much.” I loved my husband at the time but, I didn’t want that lifestyle.  I grew up inside our marriage, he was older.

 That was the beginning of new changes for me to discover what really mattered and how I wanted to live the rest of my life.  Once the reality of the divorce hit, I was devastated.  It wasn’t easy at first and so much different than what I imagined but, the decision was made.  It was then that I decided to find my purpose and discover new things about myself.  I made the decision not to date and instead dedicated this time to transition into my new life.  It was a personal decision to be single.  It has been a process defining my purpose and what matters to me.  I encourage you to heal any emotional challenges before you walk into a new relationship.  You are doing the favor to yourself! 

This is GOALYGO!

 
Yanira ALY Nazario J

 

 

GO with an Opportunity!

 

 

 

 

We are all given many opportunities in life.  I believe when an opportunity meets perfect timing you have success.  There are opportunities for us to learn and take the next step in our journey.  Each person we meet is a connection that can lead to a new opportunity and it’s up to us to decide whether or not to pursue it.  However, not everyone we meet is meant to be part of our life.

You have to define where you want to go in this journey called Life.  If you focus on your dreams you will have an opportunity to see those dreams unfold in front of you.  When something doesn’t feel right, always follow your gut.  Your gut is your true self; your GPS on what’s right or wrong.  Follow your instincts no matter what and you’ll avoid regretting certain decisions.  We can decide to take any opportunity and use it to grow, learn and help others.  Do what’s right and recognize others.  You can pick and choose any opportunity because at the end of the day you are designing your own life. GO Connect with others to get closer to your dreams!

 

This is GOALYGO!

 

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Daily Quote!

Instead of hidding from life because of your failures. Learn something about yourself from what has happened and know there is someone who needs what you have to give!

                                                                                          Yanira Aly Nazario

My GOALYGO Journal: The reason behind GO ALY GO!

My GOALYGO Journal: The reason behind GO ALY GO!: The reason I made the decision to start my own business network is because I enjoy meeting new people and making new connecti...

The reason behind GO ALY GO!

The reason I made the decision to start my own business network is because I enjoy meeting new people and making new connections.  These connections give me a new outlook on life, inspire me and allow me to move closer to my goals.  I believe in life, when you meet new people it’s to learn and help each other grow. There’s always something to learn with each connection that’s made; whether it’s for a short period or for a lifetime.

One of my dreams is to help people all over the world connect with each other and GO to their next level of success.  We do this by hosting networking events, planning fun outings or vacations and other future ideas we have in mind for the network.  Many people ask, “But how did you do it?” and it always comes down to “because I knew someone.”  It’s obviously important to work on your skill set and always strive to be better but, I believe our connections are what move us to the next level.

The GOALYGO Network was founded with the principle of taking steps to GO to the next level of success.  The reason behind the name GOALYGO was because one day someone said to me “GO Aly!” This person challenged my abilities.  This made me feel uncomfortable with my life, my daily routine and my not so great habits.  It was then that I started to feel more confident about myself.  This renewed feeling of confidence allowed me to experience many new opportunities.

I encourage you to join our GOALYGO movement because we are impacting and moving lives to their next level of success.  We are inspiring others to GO, trust and believe their dreams are possible.  In the next few weeks, I will be highlighting several important connections in my life for you to understand how important an introduction can be. They have all changed my life for the better. You have your own bucket of connections waiting for you.  Let’s take the daily steps necessary for you to experience a new you!

This is GOALYGO!

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Cheating...

                                                 Many people live year after year avoiding the truth.

It’s amazing how some people live their life full of lies and in denial.  I honestly believe that it takes time to truly understand what we really want in life and sometimes we don’t know how to handle certain situations and seek relationships outside of a committed relationship.

Why do people cheat?  There are many reasons why someone is willing to cheat.  I believe it starts with an emotional void in which this person feels they need to seek validation from someone outside their relationship.  I don’t think cheating happens all of a sudden but, happens gradually after so many bad situations have taken place within the relationship.

I was having a conversation with someone about cheating.  This person is in a committed relationship and cheated on their significant other.  When I asked “Why do you cheat?” they answered “I tried to break off our relationship but my partner wouldn’t let me go and there are no consequences when I do go out and cheat.”  I realized that people don’t necessarily want to hurt others but, the reality is that when you do cheat you are hurting yourself.  The other person you’re cheating on may never find out but, you’ll have to live with that not to mention the stress you feel worrying if the other person will eventually find out but some people never do.

I believe people can sense when their spouse is cheating or acting different.   A woman will notice the changes in her man’s behavior and may feel that he is cheating.   The truth is that if you think he is cheating, more than likely, he is whether he “loves” you or not. Many people want evidence when you can sense an affair. I believe people should always be honest with themselves.   For those of you that consider being unfaithful, I suggest you walk away from the relationship and spare your partner the hurt.

This is GOALYGO!



Yanira ALY Nazario :))