My favorite Holiday, New Year's Eve...

 

 

 

Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve loved New Year’s Eve.   Every year on December 31^st I remember writing in my diary a “year in review” page.  It was the moment when I played out a movie in my head about what happened in those last twelve months.  The opportunity to see my growth, special moments and decisions made is fascinating.  It was the moment of reflection about all the lessons learned in ONE year.

The excitement to be here and still have a chance to keep going just makes it more special.  Every year, I celebrate New Year’s Eve differently.  I don’t have a specific tradition, I just GO with however I feel like celebrating that year.  I had an opportunity to celebrate New Year’s Eve in Times Square, New York years ago.  It’s an amazing experience to be with thousands of people from all over the world.  A couple of years ago, I celebrated  New Year’s Eve in Miami.  Having a nice dinner with champagne just made it unforgettable.   I also celebrated one New Year’s where ice cream and flannel PJ’s were my date to welcome the New Year.  I truly enjoy the celebration of December 31^st every year.

It’s the time to review your life; for you to see how far you have come.  It’s rewarding when you can look back and say “I did it” but, if you GO another twelve months without any goals then you are just cruising through life.  There is nothing wrong with cruising through life as long as you’re happy with where you’re going.  If you want more, it requires a lot of planning and putting certain actions in place in order to achieve those goals.  I encourage you to put your goals on paper.  You have a better chance of being successful when your goals are written down.  Best wishes in the New Year to come!

This is GOALYGO!


Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Best Friend Club..

                   
         There are certain special people in your life and that’s why I have a Best Friend Club!

I created the BFF Club years ago when I realized who my true friends were.  I have many friends that are very special to me but the BFF Club is elite.  These are girls that have known me for over two decades and have been with me through every challenge and special moment in my life. Their names are Norma Rivera, Daisy Lopez, Johana Nazario, Waleska Castillo, Johanna Rivera and Mariely Delgado.

They are all very special and unique in their own way and I can share anything and everything with them.  These are friends that I have called when I needed to be rescued from a situation, needed a shoulder to lean on or hands to wipe away my tears.  They know me like no other friend.  They know my heart, my story, my struggles, my pain and my life.  We have shared many talks and years together and I am truly blessed to have them in my life.  

We started a tradition where every year in December we have our BFF Dinner. This is a time where we talk about the past year, share highlights and specials moments, and share our plans for the new year to come.  Since the club was founded by me, I decide where we eat, what gifts we exchange and what we do for that particular day. 

 

On Sunday, December 15, we decided to have our BFF Dinner for 2013. This year we lost Mariely Delgado.  Mariely and I met in high school and for over twenty years she was my best friend.  Because of her passing I decided to have a picnic at her cemetery and while we were there, we handmade Christmas cards for her.  We set our picnic blankets down, pizza and wings were served and we all settled in to talk about and share our 2013 year.  It was hard to deal with not being able to see Mariely or hear her voice but it felt warm and comforting to be there with her in spirit.  It has been an incredible year for me with regards to my business but losing Mariely has been more than difficult.  

We all enjoyed our dinner while talking about different events that took place this year.  Norma had a baby, Johana got married and Waleska got engaged.  In my mind, next was Mariely’s turn to share her year but her silence caused an indescribable pain in my heart.  She wasn’t there this time and she will never be there again for me to know about her year.  All I have today are years of memories and the story of her life held close to my heart.  I shared with the girls how each friend in our lives plays an important role and how we’re all unique with our own special qualities. We continued sharing conversations and time together while inside I was silently grieving the loss of Mariely.   Accepting her absence continues to be a process and is harder than I could have ever imagined.  My heart misses her every day but, it felt good to be around my closest friends and feel the love we have for each other.

We each shared our plans for the new year and I know there’s a reason why I was placed by Mariely’s side when she was dealing with her illness and why I was there when she passed.   Each day I pray for strength and understanding.  We finished up our Christmas cards, handmade with so much love for her and I know she was very happy.  She knew I wasn’t very creative but I do have my artistic moments. Having this day at the cemetery with Mariely just made our BFF dinner that more special.  I look forward to sharing the new year with my girls and spending more time with them!

This is GOALYGO!


Yanira ALY Nazario :))

My Marriage....

                                     There are so many reasons why I choose to share my story with you!

I always say “I married my best friend.”  We met by accident but for good reason.  I used to be a Supervisor at Universal Studios and one of my employees kept asking me for months to hang out with his friends.  I finally decided to go out with my BFF to meet them.  We got to his house and he walked out with his roommate and said to me “Hey, why don’t you get to know my roommate so I can get to know your friend.”   That’s when I met my ex-husband for the first time and started a friendship of a lifetime.

His name is Hector Ortiz.  We started a friendship where we could talk about anything.  We always helped each other, shared laughs and enjoyed playing competitive games.  We were strictly friends for six months with no romantic encounters.  This one particular day, he invited me over for dinner and I agreed to go meet my “best friend.”   After all he was my favorite cook too.  After dinner he sat me down and said “I want you to be my girlfriend.” I didn’t know how to react.  I started laughing nonstop and was so happy to know that I could be open about my feelings and love for him.  We started spending more time together and discussed plans for our future.  Several months went by and he said “We need to talk.”

That’s when I realized he was going through some changes and I needed to support him in every way possible.  I was there as his friend to listen and to just be there for him.  Then all of a sudden he moved closer to me and said “I want to spend my life with you forever; I want to marry you.”  I smiled so big with tears in my eyes and said “Yes!”  I couldn’t be happier.

Eighteen months later, we were married and completely in love.  It was the beginning of our twelve year marriage and a bright future.  We shared so many different experiences that allowed us to grow together.  We both worked hard to improve our careers and accomplish all of our dreams.  I have to say we did; we purchased our dream home, several properties, we had our own business and every other possible goal was accomplished.  Hector was very supportive.  He was my biggest cheerleader and loved me dearly.

For me, it was an experience that changed my life for the better.  I have a lot of respect for Hector and would never speak badly about him even if we didn’t agree sometimes.  I realized life changes quickly but, love is the foundation that connects people.  People forget marriage is a commitment that takes place by choice. Today, I have a great friendship with him.  We can talk, laugh and catch up with each other like best friends.  We both understand what we want in life and that’s what matters more than a certificate of marriage. Find out what’s important to you.  Do not hesitate to GO for it.  

This is GOALYGO!



Yanira ALY Nazario :))

A Goodbye to Remember...

                                              We must live for today because that’s all we have!

Having to support my best friend during her years battling cancer gave me the knowledge to understand the illness, have more patience and be proactive.  She was like a sister to me.  Our last days together were very special because we spent every minute side by side enjoying each other’s company.  I helped her family make important decisions and worked with her doctors to make sure she had the best care.  I gave her massages to keep her comfortable, talked to her while she was asleep and was by her side day and night caring for her in every way possible.

On the third day of being with her in the hospital, I found myself wide awake at 3:00am.  I looked over at her and thought to myself “What’s the life lesson?”   She was part of my life for 21 years.  It was so hard to remain strong.   I felt hopeless knowing there was nothing I could do to take away her pain.  She wasn’t able to say much other than to call my name from time to time.  Going through this made me realize that in life nothing matters other than how you help others by listening, understanding and giving your time.  It was an experience that changed my perspective on life and made me realize how precious life really is.

It was finally time to say goodbye.  I looked at her lying in the hospital bed.  She had a hot pink headband wrapped around her head.  I walked over slowly and sat down by her side.  Every part of me was broken, knowing that these were our last moments together.   Holding back tears I whispered “Everything is going to be fine.”   She said “I know.”  I gave her a hug that said “I love you more than words could ever express.”  At this point my tears were uncontrollable; they were flowing like a river.  She said “Te amo mucho, gracias.”  At that moment I felt a piece of my heart die.  I couldn’t let go.  The pain was unbearable.   With every tear I felt my heart being cut into pieces.   It took every part of me to let go and walk away.   That’s when I knew our life story of 21 years had reached its last chapter.  It was a goodbye I will never forget.  She walked into heaven on Saturday August 17, 2013.

The next few days were devastating.  Trying to keep my head clear, while making the necessary funeral arrangements, was almost impossible.  Before she left she gave me special instructions and wishes for her funeral.  I have no idea where I got the strength to deal with all the changes, emotions and decisions.  I picked out her clothes for her welcoming into heaven with an empty heart.  I was completely numb.  I spoke at her memorial service with loving words that touched many hearts.

From time to time I’ve wondered “why do I have my own business?”   Now I know it’s a blessing to have the freedom to set my own schedule.   Having my own business gave me the ability to be by her side for weeks with no worries.  Today, I find myself coping with the change of not being able to speak with her every day.  I visit her grave often so we can play catch up for now.   We made arrangements for her to be buried at a cemetery that’s less than two miles from my home so I get to visit her often.  There is a process for everything in life; I am grieving her loss day by day.  I miss her every day more than yesterday!

This is GOALYGO!

 

 

Yanira ALY Nazario :)) 

What's your Pep Talk to yourself?

 

 

             I truly believe this makes a huge difference in your life, Motivation!

This topic is very special because a lot of people don’t understand the difference between being positive and being motivated.   Motivation is what drives you to accomplish your goals and get results.  For many years of my life, I found myself very optimistic about the future but, had no motivation to take the right steps to move forward to reach my goals.

I can’t stress enough how important it is to be motivated on a daily basis.  At one point in my life, all my dreams and hopes were over shadowed by the darkness of my lack of motivation.  I felt hopeless.  I had a very positive outlook on life but, had absolutely no drive.  It was like turning on a Ferrari and hearing the engine roar but then leaving it in park all day long.   The emotions of fear, doubt and uncertainty were the permanent voices I heard in my head.   Finally, one day I changed the conversations I was having with myself.  I started to make affirmations and pump myself up every morning.

 You can be positive, have a great heart and good intentions but, if you want to accomplish goals and reach new levels of success, you have to be motivated!  Motivation can come from different sources such as motivational videos and books, writing down your goals, listening to motivational speakers etc. You must find your best motivator in order to overcome daily obstacles. When you are motivated, your energy level is different and you can breeze through any challenge. Today, I practice my daily ritual of motivation.  I repeat my daily affirmations over and over to myself like “You have SuperPowers”, “You are Smart”, “You can achieve all your dreams.”   I have a one on one pep talk with myself every morning and set the stage to be effective every day.  I encourage you to find what drives you and what gets you pumped up and excited and have your own morning pep talk.  It works every time!!

My favorite motivational quote that I use nonstop daily is “GO ALY GO”.  

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Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Why not have new friends...?

 

            We all have those people in our lives that we call “friends.”

During the last decade, I have met the majority of the people that are now a part of my life. I always have a tendency to be around the same people and do the same activities. I have many friends that have been part of my life for more than 25 years and continue to be.  I love to meet new people and hear their stories.  It’s great when I can have a conversation with someone like I’ve known them for years even if I only met them two minutes ago.

At one point in my life, I found myself in the same circle of friends.  It was warm, comfortable, lovable, fun and enjoyable but, I always had a feeling that I wanted more.  That’s when I decided to start meeting new people.  I felt like I needed to interact with new people to experience new things in my life.  It was scary in the beginning being around strangers and I was a little shy at first but, “Aly, the social butterfly” always had something to talk about.

The first person I met when I decided to venture out was Denise.  She didn’t know anything about me other than my name.  She worked in the same office building where I had my office.  One day, I asked “How’s your day going?”   That’s when I opened the door to a new friendship.  We started to have lunch together regularly talking about our careers, weekend plans, life experiences, boys and just truly enjoyed our time together.  Denise is five years younger than me so sometimes if I was giving her advice she would respond “OK, MOM.”

Denise is the perfect example of great friendships that evolve when you explore the opportunities to meet new people.  We’ve traveled to different places together like Puerto Rico and Miami.  Last week, she shared how much our friendship meant to her and asked me to be in her wedding.   It all started with a simple “hello” and here we are three years later with so many great memories to look back on and a great friendship to be proud of.  We both travel frequently for work and have successful careers but, we have always managed to catch up with each other and stay in touch.

I encourage you to build new relationships in your life and nurture your existing friendships.  It doesn’t take away from your existing friendships to create new ones.  People must earn your trust and time but you have to give them the opportunity to be around.  I have met so many new friends within the last two years that truly continue to make a difference in my life. I encourage you to make new friends!

 

This is GOALYGO!

 

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Ask yourself: "Am I ever going to be Happy?"

 

                                 There are moments in life where we all wonder “Am I ever going to be happy?”

There was a time in my life where I found myself overwhelmed by so many things and always in a bad mood.  I was always in defense mode ready to answer back or prove my point whenever confronted.   It was exhausting and took a lot of energy to live this way but I felt this was the only way I could protect myself from any harm.  I would spend day after day upset, angry at the world and would avoid having to speak to people due to certain situations.   I lived so many days wondering if I would ever get a break.

I felt hostage to these negative emotions; trapped in a very closed environment where I couldn’t see any hope or solutions to my problems.  I was constantly seeking approval and wanted to feel valuable.  My ultimate dream was to be set free and to be happy.  One day I was looking for a few clothes and found an old pair of size 5/6 jeans.  The majority of my wardrobe, at that time, was a size 24.  At that moment I had a quick snapshot of my life and realized that I was using food to numb my emotions.   

Recently, about a few Sundays ago, I looked inside my closet and found nothing bigger than a size Medium and 7/8 pants that’s when I said “WOW, I am completely happy.”  Today, I realize how we invest so much energy on things that really don’t matter at the end of the day.  I had allowed small things to get to me and make me miserable and didn’t realize that my life was so much more and full of greater meaning.  I encourage you to evaluate the things that bother you and find out if they have a valuable meaning in your life. We can live our lives in misery and allow the smallest things to ruin our day or we can see the good in every situation and live our lives with meaning.  Don’t argue over the small stuff! J

This is GOALYGO! 

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Betrayal comes from friends and Loved ones!

 

                           Many people think having a business has all the perks until you meet the wrong people.

I was presented with an opportunity to start a security company in the Caribbean and then expanded my vision to add yet another company which would be considered an international investment company.  I immediately reached out to a few close friends and asked them to join me in pursuing this great opportunity.  This would also give them the chance to experience the business world.

I was very excited to own a business with two of my closest friends and was determined to make this new venture profitable for us.   Our business plan was put into action and we immediately started working together to make our new business a success.  Within a few months, we signed our first official distributor in Puerto Rico.  This great accomplishment gave each of us the confidence to continue to press forward.   In a matter of a few months, I started traveling frequently to Puerto Rico to continue to grow our business.

A couple weeks later, we noticed our suppliers were not very responsive and my business partners were becoming less cooperative and less involved.  It was during a phone conversation when it was brought to my attention that my two partners may have betrayed my trust.  I was immediately crushed and flew back to Orlando to address the situation.  I was heartbroken when I learned the rumors were true.  At that moment our partnership and friendship ended.  I was betrayed by people that I loved dearly and had invested many years of sharing my life with them.  It was one of the trips to Puerto Rico where I discovered our “New Distributor” was conducting bad business and the federal government was now involved.  It was devastating.

The next few months were very uneasy and proved challenging having to deal with legal matters.  There was an investigation that went on for a few months.  As the company CEO and President I found myself close to being prosecuted for dishonest actions conducted by others.  My business was officially bankrupt and my prosecution in question.  I had no choice but to shut down. Thanks to the support of my family and sound legal representation I was able to walk away a free woman but, I found myself with a bankrupt business and in debt with legal fees. That’s when I decided to take three months off to weigh out my options.  I came to realize that bad people do exist and there are very few people you can trust.

After carefully evaluating my options, I decided to do it all over again but, this time alone.  I remember walking into my mother’s house saying “I’m leaving to Puerto Rico tomorrow to build a new business.”  My mother said, “You just won’t give up…”  It had been nine months since I closed the original business but I flew to Puerto Rico and started knocking on doors all over again with new business ideas and plans. I hired an incredible team and brought an investor on board.   In a matter of six months, we created alliances with the Puerto Rican government and an engineering firm and signed a contract to provide security and technology services in Barbados, St Lucia, Nevis, St Kitts and Dominican Republic. That’s when I realized failure brings you closer to your goals.  Never give up on your dreams!

True Story. J

 

This is GOALYGO!

 

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Find a Way!

                                        It is amazing to see the determination Diana had to achieve her dream!

I can’t imagine the preparation behind her accomplishment and the willpower it took to overcome all the obstacles she faced.  She is truly an example of never giving up. Diana had a dream to swim from Cuba to Florida all her life.  Her record-breaking swim around Manhattan and swimming 102.5 miles between Bahamas and Florida gave her the title of the greatest long-distance swimmer in the world.

Diana attempted to swim from Cuba to Florida back in her 20’s but she kept coming up short from her goal. Then, 36 years later at age 60, after her mom’s passing, she made the decision to try again. She said, “It was about what I wanted to be.”  She tried every year to hit her goal but each year the swim proved impossible with jellyfish, water encounters and bad weather conditions.  On September 2, 2013, she finally made it after overcoming so many obstacles and having all the odds stacked against her. Diana achieved her dream to swim from Cuba to Florida, without a shark cage, after close to 53 hours of swimming and traveling 110 miles.  Her accomplishment is truly remarkable!

After watching her story on Oprah, she inspired me to continue my journey to achieve my dreams. Her mantra to live her life with a “Find a Way” attitude is definitely a great way to overcome anything. Listening to her story as she overcame each obstacle and her preparation for the swim proves that a positive attitude is essential for any dream.  Her conviction in believing her dream was going to come true is very inspiring.  She had no doubt that she would finish her goal and she was driven by her strong, fearless spirit.  It is extraordinary to see how people DARE to achieve dreams no matter what!

Diana Nyad said, “Never, ever give up, you are never too old to chase your dream, it looks like a solitary sport but it’s a team.”


This is GOALYGO!



Yanira Aly Nazario :))

 

Life is a Puzzle!

 

                                 It is my favorite thing to do and I live my life with the puzzle philosophy!

Who has time for puzzles?  Not many people find the time to play board games, take on a new hobby or put together a puzzle.  We tend to get too “busy” and don’t make time for having fun and tapping into our creative side but, not me.  For me, play time is a must and I always try to include it as part of my agenda.  It’s fun, it makes me happy and it allows me to clear my mind even if it’s for just 30 minutes. Yes, I have a Nintendo DS and play Mario!  I have the coolest case for it and it travels with me.

Having “PLAY” time throughout my day makes my life more meaningful.  I get to play a couple games, feed the competitive spirit within me and get back to work.  I grew up playing board games, dominos and bingo.  We have a very competitive family.  Every time our family gets together, the dominos table comes out.  We enjoy spending quality family-time together and I have some pretty interesting relatives that will not accept a loss.  Our female cousins are very competitive and make it challenging for the male cousins.

We recently traveled for the holiday weekend and all of our family joined us.  We played Pictionary and used our artistic abilities and competitive spirit to win the game.  I consider playing cards, board games, and sports as quality time with my friends and family.  Now, the puzzles are my favorite thing to do but ALONE.  I know how to GO about starting a 1,000 piece puzzle on a Friday and have it done by Saturday.  I love the focus that’s required and the strategy needed to accomplish the goal.

I use the puzzle philosophy in my life every day.   I have all these things I have to do but, I dedicate my focus to one particular area, complete the details then move to the next one.  I do not look at the 1000 pieces on my table.  If I do then I become paralyzed and feel lost.  Instead I work section by section and that’s how I GO about having a productive day. You have to breakdown your priorities and duties.  Trying to tackle everything at once can be overwhelming.

I am very excited about a new goal in my life to build a brand new home soon.  My dream is to have all the puzzles I’ve completed on the walls as art.  I decided to build a work station at my existing home to start building my puzzles.  I’ve already bought some pretty cool puzzles and I’m eager to start building them as a hobby.  I encourage you to do something FUN with your spare time and not let life’s responsibilities and obligations overwhelm your spare time! We all have 30 minutes for each of us to have some FUN!


This is GOALYGO!


Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Breakup....

 

 

                                                        They are the beginning of new opportunities.

Many people hear the word “breakup” and immediately have feelings of fear or sadness.  I believe a breakup is the beginning of a new chapter in life.  Many breakups are necessary and long overdue.  It’s the only way we can move forward and embrace new opportunities.  I’ve had many situations in my life where I didn’t see the breakup coming but, in the end, it was necessary.

A breakup can be defined as ending any situation in your life such as ending a business relationship, finding a new job, moving to a new city, ending a love relationship or ending a friendship.   When certain things no longer serve a purpose in your life, it is best to break up and move on.  It is the only way we can experience completely new opportunities.  We must end certain chapters in our life in order to start new ones.

I encourage people to evaluate their situations and relationships and consider the possibility to start anew.  It’s rewarding when you have less stress and are free from things that might have been holding you back.  The fear you feel is only a feeling; it’s not reality.  I encourage you to be honest with yourself, take an account of what needs to be changed and take the necessary steps to start a new chapter in your life.

 

This is GOALYGO!

 

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

A Man with SuperPowers!

We meet people that help us in certain areas of our lives without us even expecting it.  I believe every introduction has its purpose and helps us get to the next level.  I met an incredible man that challenged my abilities and pushed my limits.

This person is very unique because he doesn’t have to say much for me to get his message.  He has the ability to be direct, precise and commands attention.  He knows what and how things need to be done in order for the both of us to reach our goals.  His confidence draws my attention and when we are together he takes ownership of the conversation.   In my professional life I am a leader but with him I am a student.

It was the very first time in my life where I listened to someone and allowed them to guide me and change my habits.  It was challenging but, he enabled me to do things I had never done before and allowed my mind to dream about the possibility to achieve even more.  He gave me the strength to go beyond my limitations and experience new levels of accomplishments.  Because of this, I always looked forward to our times together.  They were productive.  I was growing and breaking the rules from my past by becoming a better person. 

This partnership gave me the opportunity to experience new levels of success both personally and professionally.  He is a very smart individual and focuses on what needs to be done.  He has incredible leadership skills and gives you direction with confidence.  One of his greatest assets is his strategic planning and passion to help others.  If something is important to me his determination is endless until it gets done.  He is fun to be around and we have shared many laughs during this journey.  I truly appreciate him and the positive impact he’s made in my life.  He was brought into my life through an answered prayer.

I encourage you to be hopeful and have faith.  People come into your life for certain reasons. New connections are what allow us to experience new things, new levels of success and most importantly we get to help each other. It has been a remarkable journey with his support.  I’ve enjoyed every minute we’ve had together because looking back it was, hard to change but, so rewarding in many ways.

 

This is GOALYGO!

 

Yanira ALY Nazario J

Our Last days Together....

                               When your only option is to be strong, you are given the strength and wisdom to manage.

In the summer of this year I found myself being pulled in many different directions.  Running three businesses, creating ideas, managing daily operations and coping with severe concerns about Mariely’s health was a lot to deal with. Every day was harder to get through seeing her become less and less active.  

Mariely and I were in constant communication with each other either by text messages or phone calls. She always wanted to know what “Aly was getting herself into.”   She always showed concern and looked out for me that many times I would say “Yes, MOM.”  We spoke every night about our how our day went, different plans, feelings, concerns and just girl stuff.   After each conversation, I could tell my best friend’s health was quickly deteriorating but her positive attitude and determination to fight the cancer was greater than any possible doubt.

Our conversations over the next three weeks became more intimate.   We started sharing more laughs, memories, and talked for hours at a time; sometimes until 4:00am. This one particular night I said to her “How about I become your live performer and sing to you?”  She said “Great idea.”   So I got my iPad, got on YouTube and started searching for her favorite songs.   As soon as I found the perfect song I started singing when suddenly she screams “STOP! You were born to build a business not to sing! Let’s just talk about boys.”   At that moment we both broke out into uncontrollable laughter.  We always had such a great time together.  Our conversations were always full of joy, laughter and just special.

This one particular Sunday, she wanted some “Aly time” so she said “You are always on the GO so don’t make any plans because I’m going to cook for you, come over.”   I said, “Sure, no problem.”   I remember walking into her welcoming home to find her very ill but still in good spirits.  She cooked my favorite meal and surprised me with my favorite dessert, Flan.  She wasn’t able to walk and do much but we still had dinner together.  We ended up having our girl time, played candy crush for hours, watched lifetime movies and laughed like never before with our “boy stories.”

The following Monday I went about my daily routine.  I sent her a few text messages and called her like I usually did.  Come to find out she had been admitted to the hospital.  I immediately made arrangements to go straight to see her.  I cancelled all appointments and I was out of the office until further notice.  My heart sank, my mind was racing and I started to feel weak but I remained hopeful.  As soon as I got to the hospital, I sat by her side and said “I’m not leaving you, I’m here for you.”   She smiled and said “This is gonna be FUN.”  At that moment my business, meetings, emails and phone calls had no power over my life.   My only purpose was to be by her side day and night.

We get so busy in our own individual worlds that we don’t make it a priority to call or just keep in touch with our family and friends.  The next few days were life changing for me but, today I get to share the story with others because there is always a lesson to be learned through our experiences in life.  Communicate more often with those that matter to you.!

 

This is GOALYGO! 

 

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

My Divorce...

 

                                                       There’s nothing pretty about a breakup….

It doesn’t matter how you announce the news, “a breakup sucks.”  There are so many changes with any breakup that you end up hurting each other.  It’s inevitable.  I’ve had a few breakups in my life; from breaking up with boyfriends, ending business relationships, a marriage, friendships etc. They are all hard to do but sometimes necessary.

I found myself having responsibilities early in life; I spent all of my 20s married and ended up with a relationship of 12 long years. There was a lot that was expected of me and I was being pulled in so many different directions.   I found myself with a household, a husband, a corporate job, a business, financial obligations, parent requests, friend’s opinions and it was absolutely overwhelming.  I was becoming an adult the hard way by having to make constant “grownup” decisions. The challenge to keep up with these decisions was more than I could handle and my happiness was at stake.

My husband, at the time, and I talked about how our lives were changing and we discussed what was important to us.  He wanted to have children and start a family but, my desire was to build a business. He wanted me to be a stay-at-home-mom but I wasn’t ready to have children.  I had so much on my plate; there just wasn’t any room left.   We went back and forth with discussions that finally lead us to the courthouse to file for divorce.  One day, I said to him “Why don’t you just cheat to make this process easier?” His response was “I have no reason to cheat, I love you too much.” I loved my husband at the time but, I didn’t want that lifestyle.  I grew up inside our marriage, he was older.

 That was the beginning of new changes for me to discover what really mattered and how I wanted to live the rest of my life.  Once the reality of the divorce hit, I was devastated.  It wasn’t easy at first and so much different than what I imagined but, the decision was made.  It was then that I decided to find my purpose and discover new things about myself.  I made the decision not to date and instead dedicated this time to transition into my new life.  It was a personal decision to be single.  It has been a process defining my purpose and what matters to me.  I encourage you to heal any emotional challenges before you walk into a new relationship.  You are doing the favor to yourself! 

This is GOALYGO!

 
Yanira ALY Nazario J

 

 

GO with an Opportunity!

 

 

 

 

We are all given many opportunities in life.  I believe when an opportunity meets perfect timing you have success.  There are opportunities for us to learn and take the next step in our journey.  Each person we meet is a connection that can lead to a new opportunity and it’s up to us to decide whether or not to pursue it.  However, not everyone we meet is meant to be part of our life.

You have to define where you want to go in this journey called Life.  If you focus on your dreams you will have an opportunity to see those dreams unfold in front of you.  When something doesn’t feel right, always follow your gut.  Your gut is your true self; your GPS on what’s right or wrong.  Follow your instincts no matter what and you’ll avoid regretting certain decisions.  We can decide to take any opportunity and use it to grow, learn and help others.  Do what’s right and recognize others.  You can pick and choose any opportunity because at the end of the day you are designing your own life. GO Connect with others to get closer to your dreams!

 

This is GOALYGO!

 

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Daily Quote!

Instead of hidding from life because of your failures. Learn something about yourself from what has happened and know there is someone who needs what you have to give!

                                                                                          Yanira Aly Nazario

My GOALYGO Journal: The reason behind GO ALY GO!

My GOALYGO Journal: The reason behind GO ALY GO!: The reason I made the decision to start my own business network is because I enjoy meeting new people and making new connecti...

The reason behind GO ALY GO!

The reason I made the decision to start my own business network is because I enjoy meeting new people and making new connections.  These connections give me a new outlook on life, inspire me and allow me to move closer to my goals.  I believe in life, when you meet new people it’s to learn and help each other grow. There’s always something to learn with each connection that’s made; whether it’s for a short period or for a lifetime.

One of my dreams is to help people all over the world connect with each other and GO to their next level of success.  We do this by hosting networking events, planning fun outings or vacations and other future ideas we have in mind for the network.  Many people ask, “But how did you do it?” and it always comes down to “because I knew someone.”  It’s obviously important to work on your skill set and always strive to be better but, I believe our connections are what move us to the next level.

The GOALYGO Network was founded with the principle of taking steps to GO to the next level of success.  The reason behind the name GOALYGO was because one day someone said to me “GO Aly!” This person challenged my abilities.  This made me feel uncomfortable with my life, my daily routine and my not so great habits.  It was then that I started to feel more confident about myself.  This renewed feeling of confidence allowed me to experience many new opportunities.

I encourage you to join our GOALYGO movement because we are impacting and moving lives to their next level of success.  We are inspiring others to GO, trust and believe their dreams are possible.  In the next few weeks, I will be highlighting several important connections in my life for you to understand how important an introduction can be. They have all changed my life for the better. You have your own bucket of connections waiting for you.  Let’s take the daily steps necessary for you to experience a new you!

This is GOALYGO!

Yanira ALY Nazario :))

Cheating...

                                                 Many people live year after year avoiding the truth.

It’s amazing how some people live their life full of lies and in denial.  I honestly believe that it takes time to truly understand what we really want in life and sometimes we don’t know how to handle certain situations and seek relationships outside of a committed relationship.

Why do people cheat?  There are many reasons why someone is willing to cheat.  I believe it starts with an emotional void in which this person feels they need to seek validation from someone outside their relationship.  I don’t think cheating happens all of a sudden but, happens gradually after so many bad situations have taken place within the relationship.

I was having a conversation with someone about cheating.  This person is in a committed relationship and cheated on their significant other.  When I asked “Why do you cheat?” they answered “I tried to break off our relationship but my partner wouldn’t let me go and there are no consequences when I do go out and cheat.”  I realized that people don’t necessarily want to hurt others but, the reality is that when you do cheat you are hurting yourself.  The other person you’re cheating on may never find out but, you’ll have to live with that not to mention the stress you feel worrying if the other person will eventually find out but some people never do.

I believe people can sense when their spouse is cheating or acting different.   A woman will notice the changes in her man’s behavior and may feel that he is cheating.   The truth is that if you think he is cheating, more than likely, he is whether he “loves” you or not. Many people want evidence when you can sense an affair. I believe people should always be honest with themselves.   For those of you that consider being unfaithful, I suggest you walk away from the relationship and spare your partner the hurt.

This is GOALYGO!



Yanira ALY Nazario :))

A divorce, Loss of Job, Economy recession....My Story!

For the longest time I had no idea what I was going to do with my life.  The direction of my future was uncertain.  Every day was the same as the day before and I had no desire to fight.  My dream of having my own business was just that…”A dream”.

I remember driving to my corporate job every morning wondering if I would ever own my own business and if so, where would I get the money to start?  I was excited but, scared at the same time.  It was so far out of my reach that I didn’t believe it was ever going to happen for me.  Then one day, I woke up determined to take the first step so I went online and spent days researching how to start a business.  At the end of each day I would go to sleep sad because the reality was I had no money.

One day, I drove into work and Human Resources called me into the conference room for a private meeting.   Our call center was being moved to Canada so I was given two options.  Option 1: I could transfer to a different department.  Option 2: I could leave the corporate world with a severance package of 13 years.

It was at that moment that I felt scared, but hopeful thinking this was the ONLY opportunity I had to start my own business.  I chose Option 2 and signed the severance package at that moment without hesitation.  That day I walked out the door with a sense of HOPE and determination to conquer the world.  Excited about the future ahead of me I started researching different business opportunities, I paid off some debt and I was ready to take on this new business venture.

A few months later, I found myself unemployed with no income, no new business and no husband.   I had no stability in my life.  I felt hopeless and broken.  Life was unfair.  The money I had set aside for my new business was now being used for monthly bills.  I was in survival mode.  Having a mortgage on my own every month was not an easy payment to carry on and my savings kept getting low day by day.  It was a breaking point in my life.

Three years later, I still had no new business, no job and finalizing divorce. The economy had crashed and things just weren’t going well with my financial advisor consulting services but, I remember waking up one day with a renewed sense of determination to open this new business.  While day dreaming, the idea to open up my own travel company came to mind.  That’s when I said “It’s DONE.”   I had 15 years of past experience in that industry so why not?   I immediately got on the phone, made a few calls and started the process.  I only had $40 in my bank account but knew I had a check coming in the mail for $1,200.  Right away I thought I could use that money to start the business plus I was not going to stop moving forward with plans.

Two months later, I opened my very first business offering vacation home rentals.  It was a success.  I had finally achieved my long-life dream.  Even with all the obstacles and odds against me, I pressed on. When I received my first bank statement with net profits I said to myself “I vote for you, you did it!”  I started the business with just one property then slowly contracted other homes. Today, we have over 150 vacation homes in Orlando and vacation rentals in Puerto Rico.  We now offer theme park tickets, cruises, and airfare. We now expanded our business to Brazil and have many more plans for the travel company.

Today I am grateful because even when things were not the best, I believed that one day I would have my own business.  I enjoy helping others GO after their dreams because it is possible! You decide! J

This is GOALYGO!

 

 

 ALY J

Be aware of your words!

 

This particular subject can be very challenging for me but I continue to work on it.  My approach in the past was “you tell it how it is.”   I came to realize that this attitude wasn’t the most pleasant for others.  I had a tendency to go off on people, yell and lose my temper many times.  It’s not that I know better but, I feel I should always be honest and upfront with everyone and tell the truth.

However, I learned that the “truth” might not really be the truth but, just my perception on how I see things.  That’s why now, before I speak, I’ve learned to use my words wisely and think before I speak my mind. This can be difficult at times but, I know that “telling it how it is” might not be the nicest thing for me to do.  Thinking before I speak has helped me see better results in my life.

Many of my relationships have improved because of my decision to not say the first thing that comes to mind.  What I practice now is thinking about saying things that will improve the relationship or make the situation better.  Sometimes I remain silent and keep my comments to myself knowing that if I say anything it will only make the situation worse.

I started living my life with this principle “If I don’t have anything nice to say, then I don’t open my mouth.”  Following this helps me have better results and prevents others from getting upset or hurt.  I encourage you to choose your words wisely because they can hurt others even if your intention is to help.   If you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say it.

This is GOALYGO!


Yanira ALY Nazario :))